Table of Contents
Introduction A Crisis of Belonging and What We Can Do About It ix
Part 1 The Science and Art of Situation-Crafting
Chapter 1 The Potential of the Situation
How Situations Shape Us and How We Can Shape Situations 3
Chapter 2 Belonging Uncertainty
Belonging Can Be Fragile, but It Can Also Be Fostered 23
Port 2 Causes and Cures
Chapter 3 The Pernicious Power of Us vs. Them
Why We Seek Belonging by Excluding Others 51
Chapter 4 Turning Them into Us
Crafting Situations to Bridge Group Divides 81
Chapter 5 Blaming the Person, Ignoring the Situation
How to See and Respond to What Is Really Going On 106
Chapter 6 They're All the Same
Why We Stereotype Others and How We Can Stop Doing It 139
Chapter 7 How Am I Seen?
How We Experience Being Stereotyped, and How Situation-Crafting Can Help Push Back 160
Chapter 8 I Can See It on Your Face (or Can I?)
How to Read Others with Empathy 187
Part 3 Fostering Belonging in All Walks of Life
Chapter 9 Belonging in School
Creating Situations That Help Students Thrive 211
Chapter 10 Belonging at Work
Combating Workplace Discrimination and Building Team Spirit 241
Chapter 11 Belonging and Health
Fostering Belonging to Strengthen Our Bodies and Minds 264
Chapter 12 Belonging in Policing and the Community
Building Understanding to Combat Systemic Abuses 285
Chapter 13 Belonging and Our Politics
Situation-Crafting to Bridge Partisan Divides 296
Key Takeaways
How We Can All Create Belonging 319
Acknowledgments 329
Notes 333
Index 405