Table of Contents
Foreword xi
Introduction: Healing the Divide xv
Part 1 Uncharted Territory 1
1 A Path of Discovery: The Lucky Dark 3
Meditation: How Do You Want to Die? 6
2 The Heart of Meditation: Language and Silence 9
Meditation: Strong Back, Soft Front 14
3 Overcoming the Porcupine Effect: Moving Past Fear into Tenderness 17
Meditation: Mercy-Exchanging Self with Other 23
4 The Wooden Puppet and Iron Man: Selfless Compassion, Radical Optimism 25
Meditation: Contemplating Our Priorities 33
5 At Home in the Infinite: Dwelling in the Boundless Abodes 37
Meditation: Boundless Abodes for Living and Dying 45
6 You Are Already Dying: Realizing Impermanence, Selflessness, and Freedom 47
Meditation: The Nine Contemplations 54
Part 2 Giving No Fear 61
7 Fictions that Hinder and Heal: Facing Truth and Finding Meaning 63
Meditation: Bearing Witness to Two Truths 67
8 The Two Arrows: I Am in Pain and I Am Not Suffering 71
Meditation: Encountering Pain 78
9 Giving No Fear: Transforming Poison into Medicine 81
Meditation: Giving and Receiving through Tonglen 88
10 Take Care of Your Life, Take Care of the "World: Seeing My Own Limits with Compassion 93
Meditation: Boundless Caring 99
11 The Jeweled Net: Communities of Care 101
Meditation: The Circle of Truth 107
12 Wounded Healers: The Shadow Side of Caregiving 113
Meditation: Four Profound Reminders 122
Part 3 Making a Whole Cloth 125
13 Doorways to Truth: From Fear to Liberation 127
Meditation: Walking Meditation 133
14 Embracing the Road: How We Remember, Assess, Express, and Find Meaning137
Meditation: Letting Go through the Breath 142
15 Between Life, Between People: How We Forgive, Reconcile, Express Gratitude, and Love 145
Meditation: Boundless Abodes for Transforming Relationships 149
16 The Great Matter: There is Mo One Right Way 151
Meditation: Encountering Death 159
17 The Broken Pine Branch: Deaths of Acceptance and Liberation 163
Meditation: Dissolution of the Elements after Death 172
18 Gratitude for the Vessel: Care of the Body after Death 179
Meditation: Charnel Ground Meditation 185
19 River of Loss: The Plunge of Sorrow 189
Meditation: Encountering Grief 195
Afterword: Being One with Dying 197
Acknowledgments 203