Table of Contents
Introduction 1
Part 1 The Problem
What Gets in the Way of Being at Our Best?
1 The Balcony and the Playground 15
2 Healing a Repetitive Emotional Strain Injury 20
3 Derailments from the Past 26
Stuff Accumulates
4 Derailments from the Past 33
Inherited and Disinherited Parenting Styles
5 Derailments in the Present 46
6 Derailments in the Present 56
What Pushes Our Buttons, And What can we do?
7 Derailments … from the Future 72
Part 2 The Key
The Compassionate Response Practice
8 The Fourfold You 89
9 The Emotional In Breath 98
Healing the Fever
10 The Moral Out Breath 106
Releasing the Blow
11 The Compassionate Response Practice 115
Phase One
12 The Compassionate Response Practice 124
Phase Two
13 The Compassionate Response for a Child in Need 130
Part 3 The Transformation
The Gift of the Real You
14 Widening Your Range of Emotional Responses 151
15 The Outcomes 170
16 Values Centered versus Child Centered 180
17 Making the Repair 192
Conclusion 207
Appendix: Verses to Prepare for the Compassionate Response Practice 209
Bibliography 215