Table of Contents
1 From Outlaws to In-laws 1
2 A Forty-Five-Year-Long, Painstaking Battle (Condensed to Eight Pages) 13
3 Starting Out 21 Cameo: The Unexpected Benefits of Marriage Carol Buell 26
4 What Marriage Means 35
Cameo: I Do, Mr. Taxman: How Marital Status Can Impact Your Taxes Karen Stogdill 40
Cameo: Governmental Benefits and Marriage Jane A. Bassett 59
Cameo: "More Secure and Freer" William Singer 69
Cameo: Military Benefits Bridget J. Wilson 72
Cameo: The Marital Presumption Deborah Wald 81
5 Do You "I Do'7 or Don't You? Ill
Cameo: Working Through the Pain of Discrimination Carol Buell 116
Cameo: Why the Law Shouldn't Value Marriage More Than Other Relationships … and Why I Chose It Anyway Nancy D. Polikoff 118
6 Alternatives to Marriage 123
7 Transgender and Marrying 127
8 Solving Problems 129
Cameo: Self-Understanding Michael Acton-Coles 131
Cameo: Why 1 Got Married Debra Guston 136
9 Estate Planning 139
10 Nuptial Agreements 151
11 Organizing Your Finances 163
Cameo: There's No Fair There David Boyer 166
Cameo: The Only Thing I Can Control Is the Laundry Helen Smolinski 168
12 Divorce 173
Cameo: Determining Status Deborah Wald 180
Cameo: Are We Not the Marrying Kind? Frederick Hertz 183
Cameo: Collaborative Law Mariette Geldenhuys 187
13 Assembling a Team 191
Cameo: The Shifting Landscape of Financial Planning for LGBT Clients After Marriage Equality Nan P. Bailey 194
14 Happily Ever After 197
Afterword: How Will Your Love Live On? Jim Obergefell 199
Acknowledgments 203
Appendix: Selected Resources 207
Index 211