Becoming the One: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself

by Sheleana Aiyana

Overview

Spiritual writer and founder of Rising Woman, Sheleana Aiyana takes you on a transformational inner-work journey to heal life-long relationship pattens and reclaim power over your life.

Romantic relationships have the ability to infuse our lives with the magic of intimacy and connection. But for many of us, that magic is fleeting—over and over, our relationships don't last, or if they do, they fail to make us happy. We find ourselves chasing unavailable love, sublimating our needs in service to others, or trying to save our partners from themselves, all the while abandoning the one who needs us most—ourselves.

If you find yourself struggling to let go after a relationship ends, or you keep hitting the same wall in dating and relationships with emotionally unavailable people, this is not a sign that you are broken. It is a sign that somewhere along the way, you learned to sacrifice yourself in order to be loved. In Becoming the One, spiritual leader and visionary founder of the Rising Woman community Sheleana Aiyana offers a roadmap for transforming your relationship patterns to end the cycle of self-abandonment and move into the light of self-discovery. You'll learn to:

• build a secure, loving relationship with yourself.
• connect with your inner child.
• challenge your core beliefs about love.
• set self-affirming boundaries.
• discover and celebrate your true desires.
• recognize red and green flags.

Sheleana's revolutionary lessons, based on wisdom from the traumas of her past and years of guiding thousands of women around the world in her internationally acclaimed "Becoming the One" program of spiritual and therapeutic healing practices, teach you to embody the qualities you are seeking in others so that you can become "the one" for yourself. You'll learn how to trust your body, make peace with your past, and clear the path for healthy, conscious love—one that returns the authority to you to choose how to live and whom to love.

The desire for love is wired into the very fibers of our being, but before you can create rewarding bonds with others, first you must stand wholeheartedly in self-acceptance. Becoming the One is an invitation to find your way home to yourself. 

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781797211695
Publisher:	Chronicle Books LLC
Publication date:	06/14/2022
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	304
Sales rank:	240,557
File size:	2 MB

About the Author

SHELEANA AIYANA is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationship as a spiritual path. More than 30,000 women in 146 countries have taken her flagship program Becoming the One. She lives with her husband, Ben, on xw?nen'?č, the unceded land of the Hul'q'umi'num'-and WSÁNEC´-speaking Coast Salish peoples, now known as Salt Spring Island, BC.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

1 Reclaim Your Relationship To Self

Chapter 1 The Healing Journey 13

Chapter 2 It Starts with You 29

Chapter 3 Coming Home to the Body's Wisdom 43

Chapter 4 Connect with Your Inner Child 67

2 Heal Your Past

Chapter 5 Healing the Abandonment Wound 87

Chapter 6 Divine Mother and Father Energy 105

Chapter 7 Forgiveness and Acceptance 129

3 Explore Your Relationship Patterns

Chapter 8 Understanding Projections 145

Chapter 9 Transform Your Relationship Patterns 161

Chapter 10 Compassionate Self-Awareness 181

Chapter 11 Red Flags, Green Flags 197

4 Realign with Your Truth

Chapter 12 Trust Your Body, Set Boundaries 219

Chapter 13 Clarify Your Expectations 241

Chapter 14 Define Your Core Values 253

5 Get What You Want in Your Relationship

Chapter 15 Creating a Conscious Relationship 267

Chapter 16 Your Path to Authentic Love 285

Acknowledgments 294

Recommended Reading 296

Editorial Reviews

Becoming the One is an extraordinary gift that illuminates the path to wholehearted self-acceptance so that we can participate fully in the flow of human connection. The personal stories that the author shares about her own life are unforgettable and alone worth the price of admission. Sheleana Aiyana is a wise woman, a compassionate and clear-eyed guide, a visionary, and a teacher in the true sense of the word. I’d follow her up any mountain.”

— HARRIET LERNER, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of The Dance of Anger and Why Won’t You Apologize?

 

“Sheleana is one of those rare writers whose poetic wisdom touches deep into your soul. Her words will lead you back to yourself in a way that will feel more authentic than ever before. Enjoy this beautiful odyssey back to YOU.”

— DR. SHEFALI, New York Times bestselling author of The Conscious Parent and A Radical Awakening

 

“Sheleana guides you on the journey of reclaiming yourself and defining your life. This masterpiece will take you from pain to freedom. Reading Becoming the One will help you understand the process and power of healing. Sheleana has created a must-read for people who seek to heal childhood wounds.”

— NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace

 

“Sheleana Aiyana has created a clear bridge between personal healing and improving our relationships. Becoming the One is for you if you want to live more fully and experience love at a greater level of harmony. This is a spectacular guide to the inner world and relationships; it dispels myths, grounds you in transformative truth, and reconnects you to your power.”

— YUNG PUEBLO, New York Times bestselling author of Clarity Connection

 

“Becoming the One is a gift to every human being who's on their journey of healing and coming home to themselves. As you read this book, the poetry of the words seep past the walls of pain and defense and speak directly to the most vulnerable parts of yourself wanting to be seen and recognized. It’s as though Sheleana is sitting next to you the whole time, lovingly saying ‘I've got you, it’s okay to release into your healing.’ May all those who need this tender wisdom on their healing journey find their way to Sheleana Aiyana and this powerful book.”

— DR. SCOTT LYONS, founder of The Embody Lab

“From healing your inner child to recognizing red and green flags, Becoming the One has all of the secrets you need to manifest a life full of love.”

—The Everygirl

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