Be Loved for Who You Really Are: How the Differences Between Men and Women Can Be Turned into the Source of the Very Best Romance You'll Ever Know

by Judith Sherven, James Sniechowski Ph.D.

Overview

Based on their sixteen years together as relationship trainers working with over 100,000 singles and couples, Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski have developed a truly new and original way to approach relationships. Be Loved for Who You Really Are describes the four passages of love and shows how differences between partners can be a rich source of deep intimacy, enhancing instead of destroying a relationship. Readers learn to recognize, understand, and value differences as the secret to keeping love, passion, and real romance alive for a lifetime.

Judith and Jim provide many inspiring examples that show how real love lives between two people, and how differences are at the heart of the deepest connection being together has to offer.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780312313180
Publisher:	St. Martin's Publishing Group
Publication date:	07/18/2003
Edition description:	REV
Pages:	304
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.69(d)

About the Author

In addition to their psychological expertise, husband and wife, Judith Sherven, Ph.D. and James Sniechowski, Ph.D. have been guest-experts on over 700 television and radio shows, including Oprah, The O'Reilly Factor, Canada AM, The View, and 48 Hours. They enjoy their own successful marriage of fifteen years and reside in upstate New York.

Table of Contents

	Our Appreciation	11
	A Personal Note	13
Chapter 1	Why You Can't Fail at Love	17
Passage 1	A Glimpse of What Is Possible Two Become as One
Chapter 2	The Passion: A Taste of Perfection	37
Chapter 3	The Purpose: Beyond What You've Ever Known	49
Chapter 4	The Problems: Fantasy versus Love	63
Chapter 5	The Principles: It's Always Co-Created	79
Chapter 6	The Payoff: You Know You Are Lovable	91
Passage 2	The Clash of Differences One Becomes Two
Chapter 7	The Passion: The Initiation	99
Chapter 8	The Purpose: Separate and Distinct	115
Chapter 9	The Problems: This Can't Be Love	129
Chapter 10	The Principles: The Alchemical Power of Two	149
Chapter 11	The Payoff: Love in Flesh and Blood	163
Passage 3	The Magic of Differences Two Become Three
Chapter 12	The Passion: All the Ways You Are	177
Chapter 13	The Purpose: Wisdom in Your Choice	195
Chapter 14	The Problems: Shadows from the Past	209
Chapter 15	The Principles: The Dance of Differences	223
Chapter 16	The Payoff: Free to Be You	233
Passage 4	The Grace of Deep Intimacy Three Become as One
Chapter 17	The Passion: A Foundation of Grace	245
Chapter 18	The Purpose: An Aspect of the Miracle	257
Chapter 19	The Problems: Forgetting You Are Human	269
Chapter 20	The Principles: Surrender, Surrender, Surrender	281
Chapter 21	The Payoff: Let Me Come to You	293

Editorial Reviews

This is a wonderful book for keeping love alive. Judith and Jim share their own journey of love as they help you understand yours. Their explanations and advice are on a higher level, that everyone, even those already in a successful relationship can greatly benefit from.” —Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., bestselling author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and Opening Our Hearts to Men

From the Publisher

A husband-and-wife psychology team, the authors are well known for their show on Wisdom Radio, appearances on TV talk shows, magazine columns, web site participation, and previous book, The New Intimacy. Here they present a blueprint for what they call "the arc of love." They detail the four passages through which real, mature love between two people progresses, highlighting how the differences between men and women can enhance rather than destroy a relationship. Anecdotes from their own 15-year marriage and from the lives of people they have counseled are used to illustrate their points. Replete with suggestions for further reflection or activities, the narrative tends to have a spiritual, New Age flavor. Love is often personified, and a higher power or spirit is referenced throughout, though no particular doctrine is espoused. The section describing the importance of conflict and its place in a relationship includes a warning about abuse. Given the proposed national media campaign, which will include appearances on Oprah, The View, and other popular media outlets, this book should generate demand. For public libraries' self-help collections. Margaret Cardwell, Christian Brothers Univ., Memphis Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information.

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