BDSM 101

by Rev. Jen, Brian Peterson (Illustrator)

Overview

From the mind that brought you the memoirs Elf Girl and Live Nude Elf comes BDSM 101, a no-nonsense manual for those readers interested in learning about bondage and discipline; dominance and submission; and sadism, masochism, or sadomasochism.

For years, Rev. Jen has been coaching her readers on all sex-related matters through her articles in Penthouse and posts on Nerve, an online magazine. A self-proclaimed authority on the subject of sex (and specifically BDSM), Jen spent her early twenties working as a professional submissive at a swanky Manhattan dungeon before becoming a sex surrogate for a renowned therapist.

In BDSM 101, Jen shares rare insight into this oftentimes misunderstood world. Practical instructions are given on:

• Safety and communication
• Bondage, spanking, flogging
• Fetishes, humiliation, dirty talk
• And more!

Included are steamy, sometimes ridiculous anecdotes from Jen’s past, interviews with her wacky artist friends, and basic illustrations. According to the author, “This book is what would happen if Marquis de Sade, Andy Warhol, and Dorothy Parker got together and made a nymphomaniac Bride of Frankenstein.”

Useful, entertaining, and written with rare candor, BDSM 101 is a book that can offer spark to the fires of love in any relationship.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781620877999
Publisher:	Skyhorse
Publication date:	07/01/2013
Pages:	192
Sales rank:	352,088
Product dimensions:	6.20(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Rev. Jen is a writer, poet, painter, and performer who has gained popularity in the underground film industry via acting and directing various productions. She is the author of multiple books including Elf Girl and Live Nude Elf: The Sexperiments of Reverend Jen and has also been a columnist for Penthouse and Nerve. She is the founder of Art Star Scene magazine and the co-founder of ASS Studios. She resides in New York City with her dog, Rev. Jen. Jr.

Table of Contents

What is BDSM? (And how I unintentionally become a sexpert…) 1

Safety First! (It's only funny till someone gets hurt!) 9

Have Fun! 15

What If Your Partner Just Ain't into It? (And what if you don't have a partner?) 17

A (Very Brief) Glossary of Terms 23

Becoming an Endor-Fan! 29

Types of BDSM Relationships 31

On With the Show! (The "nuts" and bolts and fun stuff…) 37

Talk Dirty to Me! (It's not just a bitchin' Poison song…) 39

Verbal Humiliation 43

Physical Humiliation 49

Spanking 53

Timing 63

Flagellation 65

Fetishes 75

Role-Play 79

Temperature Play 89

Sensation Play 105

Human Bondage! 117

Collars 131

Fisting the Night Away! 139

Into Golden Showers? Urine Luck! 143

Behind Enema Lines! 145

Glory HOLEllujah! (Home Décor for Pervs) 147

Going Pro 151

Edge Play 153

Therapy and Transcendence 161

The End 167

Acknowledgments 169

Editorial Reviews

Rev. Jen Miller (Elf Girl; Live Nude Elf) has put together a beginner's guide to BDSM by drawing upon her experience as a sex surrogate to a renowned therapist, working as a "sub" (someone who likes to play the submissive/masochist role, as opposed to a Dom, who plays a dominant/sadist role)and writer for Penthouse and Nerve.com. Introductory topics include safety, a glossary of terms, and ways to approach sexual interests with a partner. The book describes different types of BDSM play as well as the techniques, toys, and skills needed to participate in activities such as verbal and physical humiliation, spanking, flagellation, role-play, temperature play, and bondage. The author combines advice from Dom friends and stories from her own experience. VERDICT Playing off the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey, Rev. Jen has compiled a simple and funny yet serious how-to for those interested in exploring BDSM outside of the topic's growing popularity in fiction. Recommended to readers interested in sexual variety, particularly BDSM beginners, and others looking for new ideas for their sexual relationships.—Scott Vieira, Sam Houston State Univ. Lib., Huntsville, TX

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