Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love

by Amir Levine, Rachel Heller

Overview

In this groundbreaking book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Attachment theory forms the basis for many bestselling books on the parent/child relationship, but there has yet to be an accessible guide to what this fascinating science has to tell us about adult romantic relationships-until now.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9785001690535
Publisher:	Mann, Ivanov and Ferber
Publication date:	05/26/2020
Sold by:	Bookwire
Format:	eBook
Pages:	197
Sales rank:	301,938
File size:	2 MB
Age Range:	18 Years
Language:	Russian

About the Author

Доктор Амир Левин вырос в Израиле и Канаде и всегда интересовался биологией и исследованиями мозга. Его мать, известный научный редактор, ценила креативность и внутреннюю мотивацию сына и поэтому разрешала ему вместо школы оставаться дома и читать все, что ему захочется. Порой свобода выходила ему боком, но в старших классах Левин написал большое сочинение об упоминаниях хищных птиц в библейских, ассирийских и вавилонских текстах. В своем эссе он исследовал эволюцию символики хищных птиц — начиная от эпохи политеизма и вплоть до возникновения монотеизма. Окончив школу, Левин пошел на военную службу в израильскую армию в качестве офицера по связям со СМИ. Он работал с такими знаменитыми журналистами, как Томас Фридман, Гленн Франкель и Тед Коппель, и был отмечен наградой за заслуги. Рэйчел Хеллер, сколько себя помнит, всегда интересовалась поведением и культурой человека. Дочь университетских профессоров — историка и политолога; в детстве она успела побывать в США, Великобритании, Израиле и других странах. Все это сделало ее страстной путешественницей. Она подолгу жила в Индии, Индонезии, на Филиппинах, в Уганде, Кении, на Мадагаскаре и в Пакистане, поднималась в Гималаи. Там она проводила время в походах и исследованиях и многое узнала о местных традициях.

Editorial Reviews

According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Levine and social psychologist Heller, one’s adult romantic partnerships have patterns similar to those one has as a child with one’s parents. Our individual attachment styles are thus, they conclude, hardwired into our brains. Focusing on three main attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant), the authors explain the biological facts behind our relationship needs, teach readers how to identify their own and loved ones’ attachment styles, and warn of the emotional price of connecting with someone with drastically different intimacy needs. Teaching readers communication skills to breach these differences, the authors stress that people have very different capacities for intimacy, and that partners must ensure each other’s emotional well-being. Chock-full of tips, questionnaires, and case studies, this is a solidly researched and intriguing approach to the perennial trials of “looking for love in all the right places” and improving existing relationships. (Jan.)

Publishers Weekly

There is a scientific theory behind the ways we approach and develop adult relationships, write neuroscientist Levine and social psychologist Heller, and understanding how it workswill help you find the right mate—or improve your existing partnership.

Adult attachment theory, which was pioneered in the 1950s by British psychoanalyst John Bowlby, posits that human beings are genetically predisposed toward coupling, andthat a secure partnership is essential to our emotional and physical well-being. According to the authors, we all have a particular "attachment style" that governs our actions and attitudes toward romantic interaction.The ideal, and most prevalent,attachment style is "secure." A person with a secure style feels that his partner provides a loving and supportive "secure base," and that he can provide that same emotional security in return. The authors suggest that human beings are by nature social creatures, and that even when we crave independence, it's the presence of a secure partner that allows us to explore the world on our own—this is called the "dependency paradox." The other two attachment styles, "anxious" and "avoidant," are the major focus of this book. In clear terms, Levine and Heller explain how we can diagnose our attachment style and what steps can be taken to combat its negative effects. For example, someone with an anxious attachment style has a different view toward intimacy and communication (anxious types tend to obsess over relationships and worry about their affection being reciprocated) than someone with an avoidant attachment style (who tend to minimize closeness and undermine emotional connection). The analysis of each attachment style is accompanied by a set of behavior patterns and real-life anecdotes to provide the reader with relatable social context. The authors write that, despite one's age or experience, change is possible, and with the right mind-set, even those who feel defeated by dating—or are stuck in an unsatisfying relationship—can find a solid partnership.

A practical, enjoyable guide to forming rewarding romantic relationships.

Kirkus Reviews