Assertiveness: How to Stand-up for Yourself
Learning how to say your piece without getting angry or upset is a key life skill.
There are many circumstances in which it is important to make sure you are not taken for granted.
Standing-up for your rights whilst keeping your cool – in a nut shell, that's what this book is all about.
Understanding Assertiveness
The dictionary defines assertiveness as, "confidently self assured” a fairly
good description of what most of us hope to be, confident and self assured.
The question always becomes am I assertive? Am I too assertive? Am I
assertive to the point of being aggressive? No one wants to be known as
aggressive just as they do not want to be known as a push over. The goal is to
find that fine line in between too much and too little assertiveness. Balance if
you will, so that you know when to let go or when to give a little bit.
The study of assertiveness has a lot to do with how you establish personal
boundaries for yourself and for others around you. Most people fall into three
categories the first being passive where they let people overcome their
personal boundaries. If you are one of these people you probably find yourself
saying yes to things you do not want to do or letting others take credit for your
work. Most of the time you fall into these traps because you are afraid to
speak up for yourself. This sort of behavior leaves you feeling manipulated
and abused. If you see yourself as the victim in many scenarios then you
might be too passive.
The second type of person falls in that confidently self assured category. You
are unlikely to let yourself be manipulated. However, you are also willing to
take on extra work when necessary and let others have their way when it is
appropriate. This type of person generally feels good about their decisions and
in control of their own destiny.
A third type of person is assertive to the point of aggression. If you are
unwilling to compromise or let another persons voice be heard you are likely
viewed by others as aggressive. You might have a "my way or the highway"
perspective on life. It is quite likely that your social circle consists of a few
close friends who view you as the big dog and you like it that way. The
problem with this personality is that no one person is right all the time. You
probably take advantage of and manipulate others without realizing it.
The goal of falling into the middle of the assertiveness scale is that you will be
more successful in life and have better personal and work relationships.
Contents
Legal Disclaimers & Notices ........................................................................... 2
Contents ............................................................................................................ 3
Understanding Assertiveness ........................................................................... 4
How Assertive Are You? 10 Questions To Find Out ....................................... 7
Being Assertive At Work ................................................................................. 9
How to Say No and Be Assertive in Social Settings ...................................... 13
When to Say No ............................................................................................. 14
How to Raise Assertive Children ................................................................... 17
Conclusion ...................................................................................................... 21
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There are many circumstances in which it is important to make sure you are not taken for granted.
Standing-up for your rights whilst keeping your cool – in a nut shell, that's what this book is all about.
Understanding Assertiveness
The dictionary defines assertiveness as, "confidently self assured” a fairly
good description of what most of us hope to be, confident and self assured.
The question always becomes am I assertive? Am I too assertive? Am I
assertive to the point of being aggressive? No one wants to be known as
aggressive just as they do not want to be known as a push over. The goal is to
find that fine line in between too much and too little assertiveness. Balance if
you will, so that you know when to let go or when to give a little bit.
The study of assertiveness has a lot to do with how you establish personal
boundaries for yourself and for others around you. Most people fall into three
categories the first being passive where they let people overcome their
personal boundaries. If you are one of these people you probably find yourself
saying yes to things you do not want to do or letting others take credit for your
work. Most of the time you fall into these traps because you are afraid to
speak up for yourself. This sort of behavior leaves you feeling manipulated
and abused. If you see yourself as the victim in many scenarios then you
might be too passive.
The second type of person falls in that confidently self assured category. You
are unlikely to let yourself be manipulated. However, you are also willing to
take on extra work when necessary and let others have their way when it is
appropriate. This type of person generally feels good about their decisions and
in control of their own destiny.
A third type of person is assertive to the point of aggression. If you are
unwilling to compromise or let another persons voice be heard you are likely
viewed by others as aggressive. You might have a "my way or the highway"
perspective on life. It is quite likely that your social circle consists of a few
close friends who view you as the big dog and you like it that way. The
problem with this personality is that no one person is right all the time. You
probably take advantage of and manipulate others without realizing it.
The goal of falling into the middle of the assertiveness scale is that you will be
more successful in life and have better personal and work relationships.
Contents
Legal Disclaimers & Notices ........................................................................... 2
Contents ............................................................................................................ 3
Understanding Assertiveness ........................................................................... 4
How Assertive Are You? 10 Questions To Find Out ....................................... 7
Being Assertive At Work ................................................................................. 9
How to Say No and Be Assertive in Social Settings ...................................... 13
When to Say No ............................................................................................. 14
How to Raise Assertive Children ................................................................... 17
Conclusion ...................................................................................................... 21
Assertiveness: How to Stand-up for Yourself
Learning how to say your piece without getting angry or upset is a key life skill.
There are many circumstances in which it is important to make sure you are not taken for granted.
Standing-up for your rights whilst keeping your cool – in a nut shell, that's what this book is all about.
Understanding Assertiveness
The dictionary defines assertiveness as, "confidently self assured” a fairly
good description of what most of us hope to be, confident and self assured.
The question always becomes am I assertive? Am I too assertive? Am I
assertive to the point of being aggressive? No one wants to be known as
aggressive just as they do not want to be known as a push over. The goal is to
find that fine line in between too much and too little assertiveness. Balance if
you will, so that you know when to let go or when to give a little bit.
The study of assertiveness has a lot to do with how you establish personal
boundaries for yourself and for others around you. Most people fall into three
categories the first being passive where they let people overcome their
personal boundaries. If you are one of these people you probably find yourself
saying yes to things you do not want to do or letting others take credit for your
work. Most of the time you fall into these traps because you are afraid to
speak up for yourself. This sort of behavior leaves you feeling manipulated
and abused. If you see yourself as the victim in many scenarios then you
might be too passive.
The second type of person falls in that confidently self assured category. You
are unlikely to let yourself be manipulated. However, you are also willing to
take on extra work when necessary and let others have their way when it is
appropriate. This type of person generally feels good about their decisions and
in control of their own destiny.
A third type of person is assertive to the point of aggression. If you are
unwilling to compromise or let another persons voice be heard you are likely
viewed by others as aggressive. You might have a "my way or the highway"
perspective on life. It is quite likely that your social circle consists of a few
close friends who view you as the big dog and you like it that way. The
problem with this personality is that no one person is right all the time. You
probably take advantage of and manipulate others without realizing it.
The goal of falling into the middle of the assertiveness scale is that you will be
more successful in life and have better personal and work relationships.
Contents
Legal Disclaimers & Notices ........................................................................... 2
Contents ............................................................................................................ 3
Understanding Assertiveness ........................................................................... 4
How Assertive Are You? 10 Questions To Find Out ....................................... 7
Being Assertive At Work ................................................................................. 9
How to Say No and Be Assertive in Social Settings ...................................... 13
When to Say No ............................................................................................. 14
How to Raise Assertive Children ................................................................... 17
Conclusion ...................................................................................................... 21
There are many circumstances in which it is important to make sure you are not taken for granted.
Standing-up for your rights whilst keeping your cool – in a nut shell, that's what this book is all about.
Understanding Assertiveness
The dictionary defines assertiveness as, "confidently self assured” a fairly
good description of what most of us hope to be, confident and self assured.
The question always becomes am I assertive? Am I too assertive? Am I
assertive to the point of being aggressive? No one wants to be known as
aggressive just as they do not want to be known as a push over. The goal is to
find that fine line in between too much and too little assertiveness. Balance if
you will, so that you know when to let go or when to give a little bit.
The study of assertiveness has a lot to do with how you establish personal
boundaries for yourself and for others around you. Most people fall into three
categories the first being passive where they let people overcome their
personal boundaries. If you are one of these people you probably find yourself
saying yes to things you do not want to do or letting others take credit for your
work. Most of the time you fall into these traps because you are afraid to
speak up for yourself. This sort of behavior leaves you feeling manipulated
and abused. If you see yourself as the victim in many scenarios then you
might be too passive.
The second type of person falls in that confidently self assured category. You
are unlikely to let yourself be manipulated. However, you are also willing to
take on extra work when necessary and let others have their way when it is
appropriate. This type of person generally feels good about their decisions and
in control of their own destiny.
A third type of person is assertive to the point of aggression. If you are
unwilling to compromise or let another persons voice be heard you are likely
viewed by others as aggressive. You might have a "my way or the highway"
perspective on life. It is quite likely that your social circle consists of a few
close friends who view you as the big dog and you like it that way. The
problem with this personality is that no one person is right all the time. You
probably take advantage of and manipulate others without realizing it.
The goal of falling into the middle of the assertiveness scale is that you will be
more successful in life and have better personal and work relationships.
Contents
Legal Disclaimers & Notices ........................................................................... 2
Contents ............................................................................................................ 3
Understanding Assertiveness ........................................................................... 4
How Assertive Are You? 10 Questions To Find Out ....................................... 7
Being Assertive At Work ................................................................................. 9
How to Say No and Be Assertive in Social Settings ...................................... 13
When to Say No ............................................................................................. 14
How to Raise Assertive Children ................................................................... 17
Conclusion ...................................................................................................... 21
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| BN ID: | 2940012239686 |
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| Publisher: | Lou Diamond |
| Publication date: | 03/07/2011 |
| Sold by: | Barnes & Noble |
| Format: | eBook |
| File size: | 558 KB |
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