And Baby Makes More

by Susan Goldberg (Editor), Chloï Brushwood Rose (Editor)

Overview

And Baby Makes More: Known Donors, Queer Parents, and Our Unexpected Families explores the role of the "known donor" in the queer family structure: what happens when would-be dyke moms or gay dads ask a friend or acquaintance to donate sperm or an egg, or to act as a surrogate? A quirky, funny, and occasionally heartbreaking collection of personal essays, this book offers an intimate look at the relative risks and unexpected rewards of queer, do-it-yourself baby-making, and the ways in which families are re-made in the process. With no clear models to follow, these new versions of the queer family are creating their own, addressing questions such as: What's the difference between being a donor and being a parent? What happens to non-biological parents when a known donor is also part of the picture? When and how does biology count-or does it? Why do parents choose known donors, and what happens if things get ugly? And what does all this mean for queer families already facing extraordinary social pressures? The contributors-donors, biological and non-bio parents, and their children-offer provocative, nuanced insights into what it means to be or use a known donor and how queer families are being reconceived to include new roles, new rules, and kinship ties that transcend biology.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781897178836
Publisher:	Insomniac Press
Publication date:	10/26/2010
Pages:	236
Product dimensions:	5.80(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Susan Goldberg is a writer and editor whose work has been featured in a variety of media. She is the recipient of the 2002 Editors' Association of Canada Tom Fairley Award. She blogs at www.mamanongrata.com.

Table of Contents

Introduction Chloë Brushwood Rose Susan Goldberg 7

The D Word Mary Bowers 11

Mamas' Baby, Papa's Maybe Susan Goldberg 24

Donor Man Capper Nichols 31

New Path Carrie Elizabeth Wildman 45

Donor Mom Tobi Hill-Myer 56

Unexpecting Rob Gray 64

Father: Not Stated Aaron Sachs 70

After Yes Annemarie Shrouder 84

Dirty Rotten Egg Dawn Whitwell 94

It Ain't a Rough Patch, Baby Diane Flacks 100

The Spawn, the Spawnlet, and the Birth of a Queer Family Torsten Bernhardt Marcie Gibson Erin Sandilands Jake Szamosi Andrea Zanin 107

Enough Shira Spector 127

Spermbro Susan Cole 138

The Miracle Bob Smith 144

Intimacy Constellation Rosi Greenberg 156

How to Populate the Earth with Your Progeny Heather Jopling 162

Not Playing by the Rules Damien Riggs 171

"He Looks Just Like You" Rachel Warburton 179

Mother of Invention Jenifer J. Firestone Hannah Sage Firestone 186

Learning to Talk Chloë Brushwood Rose 202

My House on Stilts Cade Russo-Young 208

Conceiving Sara C. Levine 225

Contributor Bios 230