Table of Contents
Foreword by Dr. Richard Schwartz
Preface
Part One: What's Really Going On
Learning why we are divided against ourselves
1 Why Are We So Stuck?
"What I want to do, I do not do, but what I hate, I do."
2 The Whole is Greater
How understanding our parts changes how we change
3 Where is God in All My Mess?
Surrendering to God's image at our core
4 Listening Well to our Exiles
Hope for our hurting parts
5 Meeting our Managers
Parts that work hard to prevent pain
6 Relief for our Managers
Two major managers & the Six Fs in action
7 Meeting our Firefighters
Parts that work hard to stop pain
8 Firefighters Gone Wild
Three solutions for firefighter chaos
9 Unburdened Faith
Leaving DIY spirituality for the real thing
Part Two: This Changes Everything
Transforming our relationships with ourselves, others & God
10 New Lenses
Once we have them, there's no going back
11 Relating More Effectively: Me to Me
All parts are truly welcome
12 Relating More Effectively: Me to God
Surrender, not striving
13 Relating More Effectively: Me to Others
Four ways to use what we've learned
14 Relating More Effectively: Group to Group
and Culture to Culture
Parts awareness and polarized communities
15 Final Thoughts
Where to go from here
Glossary of Terms
IFS Resources
Notes
Acknowledgements
About the Author