Table of Contents
Introduction ix
Part I Apologizing is too Hard to do and too Important Not to
Chapter 1 Why Apologize? 3
Box: Benefits of Good Apologies 24
Chapter 2 It's So Very Hard to Do 25
Box: Apology Myths 46
Chapter 3 It's Not Easy but It's Not Mysterious 47
Box: The Four Steps of a Good Apology 73
Part II How to Apologize
Chapter 4 Step One: Don't Just Do Something; Stand There 77
Box: Practice Scripts for Step One 106
Chapter 5 Step Two: Say It and Mean It 107
Box: Practice Scripts for Step Two 131
Chapter 6 Step Three: Debts, IOUs, and Making Things Whole 132
Box: Practice Scripts for Step Three 154
Chapter 7 Step Four: Never Again! 155
Box: Practice Scripts for Step Four 175
Part III What, There's More?
Chapter 8 The Aftermath 179
Box: After the Apology 197
Chapter 9 What About the Apology Recipient? 198
Box: Choices for the Hurt Person 215
Chapter 10 When Not to Apologize 216
Box: When It's Better Not to Apologize 226
Conclusion. You Can Make Things Right 227
Box: What If? 229
Acknowledgments 231
Notes 233
Index 253