A Blueprint for the Perfect Life: 101 Secrets to Living the Life of Your Dreams
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Overview
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have it all while others seem destined to a life of struggle? What is it that allows some people to experience the best life has to offer in the realms of health and fitness, finances, relationships, and their dream projects, while others can’t materialize what they want no matter how hard they work? In A Blueprint for the Perfect Life, author Kabral Sharpe shares 101 secrets that are essential to living a perfect life and follows each with action steps to help make the goal become a reality. A self-empowerment coach, Kabral discusses how you can • create a body you love; • employ the simple secret success formula for total lifelong financial abundance; • create amazing relationships in your business and personal life; • do what you love for a living; • be organized and stay that way; • live your ideal life with no regrets; and • live powerfully into all your intentions so you fully enjoy the journey as well as the end result. Providing advice for everything from responsibility to gratitude to love, A Blueprint for the Perfect Life can help you achieve what you want in life.
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9781475960969 |
|---|---|
| Publisher: | iUniverse, Incorporated |
| Publication date: | 02/28/2013 |
| Pages: | 232 |
| Product dimensions: | 5.50(w) x 8.50(h) x 0.53(d) |
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A Blueprint for the Perfect Life
101 Secrets to Live the Life of Your Dreams
By Kabral Sharpe
iUniverse, Inc.
Copyright © 2013 "The Genie" Kabral SharpeAll rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-4759-6096-9
CHAPTER 1
Release Your Past
Release your past. So often, and in so many ways, the past hinders us. We don't attempt certain things because they did not work in the past. We mentally limit ourselves because we struggled with something in the past and now assume it will be that way if we try it again. We give ourselves and other people very disempowering labels because of past experiences and interactions. Our old ways of being are so ingrained in us that we don't even realize they are running our lives in most cases.
An example of this dynamic could be a time when you were in a relationship and someone mistreated you, and you still carry around the anger and hurt from that incident. Another example could possibly be when there was a period in your life when financially you just couldn't seem to manage all of your bills and expenses, and you created a conclusion in your mind that you were just not good with money. These types of incidents cripple you because you have made up stories about what they mean to the point that you are paralyzed with fear and feelings of unworthiness.
What if you didn't have a past? What if you could actually release from your mind any old, conditioned ways of thinking that prevent you from realizing your highest self? Tony Robbins said, "The past does not equal the future unless you live there." Imagine if you could free yourself from this trap forever. What would your life be like then? The possibilities would be limitless. In essence, it would be like driving your car and taking the emergency brake off. You would be able to move much faster, easier, and smoother on your journey toward realizing any of your intentions. Simply put, your life would be much better.
Action Steps for Releasing Your Past
1. Approach today with a totally fresh, new attitude. Imagine that you are writing a movie and you are the star. Answer the following questions: What qualities would you have? How would you walk and talk? How would you handle challenges?
2. What ideal characteristics would you embody? When you are clear about them, play the role.
3. As you go through your day, whenever you notice yourself saying "I can't do that" or "I tried that before" or "I know how this person is going to react," just say to yourself, "Oh, that's the past," and get back into your new character. This may be somewhat challenging, but experiment and have fun with it. When you do this enough, you will notice that the old patterns have no more control over you, and it is easier for you to live powerfully.
CHAPTER 2
Responsibility
Responsibility. Your life is where it is because of the choices you have made. This is not a cause to blame yourself for all that is missing but, rather, an opportunity to understand just how much control you have. There is so much influence that you possess in creating your destiny. "Every action creates a reaction." When you take full responsibility for what shows up in your life, you are empowered. You are no longer just experiencing circumstances but are instead harnessing your power. By assuming full responsibility for what shows up in your world, you are much more conscious of your thoughts, words, and actions. As a result you will have a great deal more influence over your outcomes.
When you take on this mind-set, there is no room to play the role of the victim. Owning your part in creating your reality is the first step to finding the adjustments that need to be made. Otherwise, you will always think that your success lies outside of yourself. This mind-set is problematic because it totally gives away your power. This is a victim's way of thinking because you no longer have any control over what happens to you. When you have no control, you are a victim of circumstance. You must understand that you already have everything you need inside of you to realize the dreams you envision.
In order to be successful in anything, you must constantly be making adjustments. Quite often these adjustments are mental and emotional as well as physical. As Tony Robbins said, "You either need to change your process, your procedure, or both." Regardless of the kind of adjustment, once it is made, your results will vary. You will then need to make adjustments again based on those new results. This process continues over and over again until you achieve your desired outcome. However, you can never get to this place until you acknowledge how your way of being has gotten you to where you are now. Successful people fully own their role in creating their lives. This is not always a fun thing to do, and it is definitely not the way we are conditioned to think. Yet it is by far the most rewarding way to live because it enables you to embrace your power and design your life. Of course there are some situations which will be beyond your control, but in most cases you have a great deal of input if you just look to see how you can create your circumstances.
Action Steps for Responsibility
1. Practice taking full responsibility for every area of your life.
2. With each challenging situation that occurs, ask yourself, "How did I create this in my life?" Was it your thoughts, feelings, actions, or all of the above?
3. Then ask yourself, "What do I want, and how can I use my present circumstances to help me realize my intention?"
CHAPTER 3
The Power of Influence
The power of influence is a great gift. It means you have the ability to affect your surroundings and the people in your environment. There are a number of things you can do to deepen your connection to others and increase your influence. Yet there are three main principles to practice in order to have powerful influence. First, bear in mind that whatever state you are in mentally and emotionally rubs off on others. It has often been said that "enthusiasm is contagious." The same is true of anger. Emotions are simply a form of energy, and energy affects everyone whether it is high or low. If you want to have a positive effect on someone, be in a positive state. The mere transference of energy will lift their spirits and have them be more open to you. This is especially important to be aware of if you are in negotiations of any kind.
Second, engage in the practice of mirroring. When you mirror someone's body language, gestures, and even speech patterns, they will naturally feel more connected to you even if they don't know why. Mirroring naturally strengthens your rapport with people. You do not have to mirror them exactly, or even for a long time. However, if you do it enough, and you do it from the beginning of the interaction, then when you return back to your normal rhythm, they will most likely follow your lead because they will feel that you are like them and they will want to stay connected to you. This mirroring technique is called pacing.
Third, if you want to influence someone, be a true friend to them. Take a sincere interest in what they find important. Really listen to what they have to say. Establish a rapport with the person before you need something from them. This lets them know that you are not trying to use them and conveys the message that you genuinely care about them.
If you practice these three principles, you will notice your connections to people deepening and your personal influence strengthening. Remember, success in any field requires the assistance of others, so expand your field of influence starting now.
Action Steps for Experiencing Your Power of Influence
1. Practice generating enthusiasm when you speak to others and make sure to be in a peak state before important interactions.
2. Practice pacing as you mirror the people you are communicating with so that your voice and gestures enable you to create a deeper connection with them.
3. Be a true friend first. Listen to the needs of the person, and be specific with how what you are involved in applies to them.
CHAPTER 4
Gratitude
Gratitude. Most of us have less of it than we realize. The vast majority of people spend more time focusing on the negative and what is wrong with their lives than all that is right. There is a saying that goes "Enlightened people give thanks for what normal people take for granted." We have so much to be thankful for. There is so much more going right in your life than there is going wrong in most cases. True wealth has to include gratitude. If a person has a lot of material wealth but no gratitude then they are emotionally poor. Therefore, in order to have both, you must develop an attitude of gratitude. The more you appreciate your blessings, the more you enjoy your life. The dictionary definition of appreciation is "to increase the value of." In other words you elevate the value of anything that you are grateful for simply by appreciating it. Also, the more you are grateful, the more the universe brings prosperity your way.
When you are in a state of gratitude, your mind is contemplating all the abundance that exists in your life. As this happens, you become a magnet for more abundance. This is how the universal law of attraction plays out. Put another way, "what you think about expands," "like attracts like," "water seeks its own level." The bottom line is the more you can generate this feeling, the happier you will be and the more you will find new blessings popping up in your life.
Action Steps For Experiencing Gratitude
1. As you start your day, think about at least ten things that you totally appreciate in your world. It could be something as simple as your ability to walk or see, but whatever it is, acknowledge it, and then give thanks for its existence. If you want to deepen this experience, just think of how you would feel if these things that you appreciate no longer existed in your life. This will enhance your mood and help to start your day off on the right foot.
2. As you proceed through your day, give thanks for each occurrence, no matter what it is. Create the habit of saying "that's great" with each incident and search for the reasons why.
3. Before you go to bed write down and give thanks for each new blessing that you experienced in your life that day, no matter what form it took. These blessings may come in the form of material gifts, quality time with people, personal accomplishments, or any other kinds of successes from that particular day.
4. Pay close attention to how this attitude of gratitude shifts your mental state by making you happier, positively impacts your day by making you more effective, gives you more energy, and attracts even more abundance and blessings to be grateful for.
CHAPTER 5
Leadership
Leadership. In order to get into the top 10 percent in your field, you have to become a leader. Leaders have very specific characteristics that set them apart. These qualities are traits that all people can develop in themselves. These traits are not necessarily easy to acquire, but through steady application they can and will become traits that you live by. The first trait is that leaders have a vision. They truly practice long-term perspective, and they think from the end. Their decisions are based on what is the next best anticipated step to progress them in the direction of that long-term vision. They are able to avoid many of the ineffective mistakes most people make, because they are always taking planned action based on the big picture. The second trait of leaders is that they take full ownership of doing whatever it takes to realize that vision. They act from a place of "If it is to be, then it is up to me." This doesn't mean that they don't delegate or use leverage to obtain a goal, but they take full responsibility for achieving the desired end result. Third, the leader is a living example of how to be in your power while moving on purpose. The leader is enthusiastic. The leader has integrity. The leader is willing to admit mistakes and to make the corrections as quickly as possible. Leaders govern themselves as if someone were watching their every move, even when no one is. Leaders have the mind-set of whatever it takes, and they back that mentality up with massive action. Leaders constantly build up their teams with love and respect. Leaders have higher standards for themselves than anyone else would ever have for them. Leaders constantly look at how they need to grow in order to lead more effectively to realize the vision. The leader seeks to see the situation from the other person's point of view. In short, as Brian Tracy said, the leader asks questions like "What kind of group would this be if everyone in it were just like me?"
The thing to remember is that you are a natural-born leader. You would not even be reading this book if you weren't. If you can just work a little bit each day to get a little bit stronger with these traits, then over a year's time you will become infinitely greater as a leader. Little by little, these improvements will add up to tremendous growth. It will not always be easy; in fact, at times it will be the hardest thing you could ever do, but you will have a great sense of self, purpose, and accomplishment that no one could ever take away from you.
Action Steps for Becoming A Leader
1. Choose to be a leader in your life and always act from your vision with the end result in mind.
2. Take full ownership of your vision by realizing that ultimately you are the one responsible for the success of the project.
3. Be a living example of how to conduct yourself for your people by demonstrating the enthusiasm, focus, love, action, and support you want them to display.
CHAPTER 6
Forgive
Forgive. A very powerful action, yet putting it into play can pose quite a challenge. We find it is so easy to hold on to grudges, anger, or any type of unpleasant circumstances that we have been through. Any kind of resentment that you have needs to be released. This is more for your sake than anyone else's. Your judgments about the way you think things should be and how people should act prevent you from being emotionally centered.
The feelings that you hold against yourself or anyone else prevent you from experiencing love and peace in your life. This makes it impossible for you to be free emotionally. Anger is simply stuck energy that has not been released for whatever reason. It is important to understand that holding on to anger is one of the most detrimental things you could do. Clinging to this energy is devastating for your health and wealth. Remember that like attracts like, so anger attracts more negativity into your circle. Anger will actually repel prosperity and wellness and attract even more anger and illness into your life. There is a saying that goes "holding on to anger is like taking a drink of poison and expecting someone else to die from it." This is not to suggest that you will never experience upsets. However, the quicker you let them go, the sooner you will welcome abundance into your life on every level. Carry the loving power of forgiveness with you today and notice how you begin to feel lighter and more at ease.
Action Steps for Forgiveness
1. Forgive yourself and others for all transgressions or unpleasant experiences. This does not mean that you accept all of people's behaviors, but you forgive them for their mistakes and love the God force that exists in them and in all of us, even if some of that force is being blocked at the time.
2. Write out and journal any hurt feelings you may still be carrying. Allow those feelings to come up. If you still are feeling anger you can visualize the other person's perspective and imagine them apologizing to you for the incident. Then gently affirm that you are letting the anger and hurt go. Repeat this process any time the feelings resurface.
3. Do something special to love yourself. Then send love to yourself and the other people you have the feelings toward. Visualize yourself and them doing well in every way.
CHAPTER 7
Guilt
Guilt. Everybody feels this emotion at one point or another. However, some of us feel it more frequently. It usually creeps up when you are disappointed about something you have not accomplished. On occasion, guilt will also show up when you feel that you have violated one of your values in some way. It is very important for your well-being not to dwell on this emotion. When you do, you are usually blaming someone, even if that someone is yourself. You have these feelings when you think there is something you should have done, and then you "should all over yourself." There is a zen proverb that says "should is a stick that we use to beat ourselves with." Blame is always counterproductive. It is a tremendous waste of mental and spiritual energy, and it robs you of the moment.
Everything happens just the way it is supposed to. There are no accidents. However, if you are looking to realize your goals, you must make sure that you extract the lessons that you are supposed to gain from each occurrence or else similar situations will arise with greater impact. The reason for this is because the universe is trying to support your growth so that you can experience more abundance. However, if you are not getting the important lesson then the universe must create an even stronger situation so that you can fully receive the teaching. Therefore, it is imperative to be fully present to the guidance you are receiving from the experience. When you find that you're feeling guilty about something, alert yourself so that you are not dwelling on the past.
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Table of Contents
Contents
Special Thanks.................... xiii
The Genie's Top Tenx.................... vii
#1 Release Your Past.................... 1
#2 Responsibility.................... 3
#3 The Power of Influence.................... 5
#4 Gratitude.................... 7
#5 Leadership.................... 9
#6 Forgive.................... 11
#7 Guilt.................... 13
#8 Selfless Service.................... 15
#9 Power Moves.................... 17
#10 Planning.................... 19
#11 Regret.................... 21
#12 Relax.................... 23
#13 Exercise.................... 25
#14 Manifesting.................... 27
#15 Worthiness.................... 29
#16 Ego.................... 31
#17 The Power of Your Word.................... 33
#18 Courage.................... 35
#19 Fun.................... 37
#20 Karma.................... 39
#21 Mortality.................... 41
#22 Questions.................... 43
#23 Willpower.................... 45
#24 Resilience.................... 47
#25 God.................... 49
#26 Treating Yourself and Others.................... 51
#27 Living in the Moment.................... 53
#28 Anger.................... 55
#29 Going the Extra Mile.................... 57
#30 Creativity.................... 59
#31 Legacy.................... 61
#32 Unconditional Love.................... 63
#33 Success Conditioning.................... 65
#34 Motivation.................... 67
#35 Belief.................... 69
#36 Baby Steps.................... 71
#37 Laughter.................... 73
#38 Keeping Good Company.................... 75
#39 Time.................... 77
#40 Money Beliefs, Part1.................... 79
#41 Prosperity/Money, Part 2.................... 81
#42 Patience.................... 83
#43 Balance.................... 85
#44 Risk.................... 87
#45 Flexibility.................... 89
#46 Generating a Peak State.................... 91
#47 Clutter Clearing.................... 94
#48 Faith.................... 97
#49 Patience, Part 2.................... 99
#50 Decision Making.................... 101
#51 Direction.................... 103
#52 Energy.................... 105
#53 Focus and Accountability.................... 107
#54 Relationships.................... 109
#55 Adversity.................... 111
#56 Visualization.................... 113
#57 Perspective and Meaning.................... 115
#58 Habit.................... 118
#59 The Law of Attraction.................... 120
#60 Commitment.................... 122
#61 Outlook on the World.................... 124
#62 Self-Expression.................... 126
#63 Persistence.................... 128
#64 Seize the Day.................... 130
#65 Listening.................... 132
#66 Embrace Discomfort.................... 135
#67 Loving Yourself.................... 137
#68 Fear.................... 140
#69 Affirmations.................... 143
#70 Romance.................... 146
#71 Confidence.................... 148
#72 Use It or Lose It.................... 150
#73 Thoughts.................... 152
#74 Procrastination.................... 154
#75 Momentum.................... 156
#76 Choice.................... 158
#77 The Game.................... 160
#78 Failure.................... 162
#79 Reflections.................... 164
#80 Now.................... 166
#81 Truth.................... 168
#82 Feelings.................... 170
#83 Peace.................... 172
#84 Meditation.................... 174
#85 Knowledge.................... 177
#86 Teamwork.................... 179
#87 Problem Solving.................... 181
#88 Education.................... 183
#89 Rewards.................... 185
#90 Purpose.................... 187
#91 Role Modeling.................... 190
#92 Genius.................... 192
#93 Moods.................... 194
#94 Increase Your Value.................... 196
#95 Be Unreasonable.................... 198
#96 Trust.................... 200
#97 Detachment.................... 202
#98 Being Right.................... 204
#99 You Get What You Give.................... 206
#100 Enthusiasm.................... 208
#101 Love.................... 210
Appendix A.................... 213