I decided to write this book so that I can help people go through their divorce or breakup process. As a counselor and a friend, I have seen good people who part ways and then become horribly nasty toward their Exes. I�ve been divorced, and I have learned that you don�t have to turn into a monster Ex who wants nothing but misery for your former spouse�but don�t get me wrong: I know anger, frustration, and sadness can be overwhelming. Still, you don�t have to lose your basic human dignity because your marriage or relationship has ended. Becoming the nasty Ex is such a distraction and waste of your energy�and becoming the nasty Ex will keep you from moving on with your life.
I want to help people grow after their experiences during their divorces so they can find personal peace and move on to fulfilling relationships. When your life is in turmoil, the stresses on your body and mind will take their tolls�with you personally, with your friends, and with your family, and soon you�ll just run out fuel. The nasty Ex and the recipient of the nasty Ex�s behaviors live in a constant state of stress�but it doesn�t have to be this way.
This book can help you through stressful situations so you can gain insights into what happens as you go through all the emotions and changes during a divorce or breakup. My idea here is to help you become a stronger, integral person and to help you avoid the trap of becoming a nasty Ex. Nasty behavior�I think you know already what I�m talking about�does nothing but create a cycle of nastiness for everyone. My solution is pretty simple: Life after divorce is better when you�re not nasty to your Ex.
Don�t Become the Nasty Ex is not just another book about how to get through a divorce or the breakup of a long-term relationship. It�s a book told by an author who has been divorced and has first-hand experience with blending a family after a divorce. It�s also the voice of an informed friend, because I care about what happens to people during and after a divorce. As a therapist, I see so many people going through the stress of divorce and becoming nasty as an attempt to get back at their spouse for the break-up. The nastiness just needs to stop. You can break this cycle, but, sadly, many people don�t know how to stop being nasty because no one has taught them how�movies, books, and magazines all promise that everyone lives happily ever after, but it�s not necessarily so. This book can help prevent the nasty Ex from intruding into your relationships. If you allow yourself, this book can help you learn how to be the good Ex.
