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101 Conversation Starters for Couples
By Gary Chapman, Ramon Presson Northfield Publishing
Copyright © 2012 Gary Chapman & Ramon Presson
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ISBN: 978-0-8024-8356-0
CHAPTER 1
question 1
What are two things that happened today, and how did you feel about them?
question 2
What were some of your favorite toys as a child? What was your favorite candy?
question 3
Describe the home of one or both sets of your grandparents.
question 4
What was something you really wanted but were not allowed to own as a child or teen?
question 5
Describe one of your favorite elementary school teachers. Then describe a favorite high school teacher or college professor.
question 6
As you were growing up, what was unique about your family as compared to other families in your neighborhood or the families of your friends?
question 7
What was your most serious physical injury as a child or teen?
question 8
What do you remember about learning to drive?
question 9
Can you recall visiting your parents' workplace? If so, describe it and how you felt when you went there.
question 10
Complete this sentence: "I'm sure my mom and dad wish I would...."
question 11
What is perhaps the worst movie you have ever seen?
question 12
What tragic news story in the last few years made you particularly sad?
question 13
What was one of the most memorable weddings (other than your own) that you have attended?
question 14
What is something you collected as a child or teen?
question 15
What is a question that you wish you had the courage to ask your mother and/or father?
question 16
If you were given five acres of land, where would you want it to be and what would you want to do with it?
question 17
If you could own and operate your own business (and be guaranteed of its success), what would it be?
question 18
If you do not play a musical instrument, what one do you wish you could play? If you do/did play a musical instrument, do you recall how you chose that particular one?
question 19
What would you say are two of the best concerts you have seen, either in person or on video or film?
question 20
What are two of your all-time favorite movies (or books)?
question 21
My mother/father clearly did not understand what was considered cool when she/he bought me....
question 22
What famous person (deceased) would you like to have met?
question 23
Which of the following would you find most gratifying?
[] earning a PhD
[] publishing a bestselling book
[] recording an original chart-topping song
[] winning an Olympic gold medal
question 24
If money and/or child care were no object, what would be your idea of the perfect New Year's Eve?
question 25
Who is one of the most genuinely spiritual persons you know?
question 26
How do you think the world has changed since September 11, 2001?
question 27
Which of the following rides would be your first choice?
[] a gondola in Venice
[] a cab in London
[] a Ferrari on the autobahn
[] a hot air balloon in Switzerland
[] an airboat in the Everglades
[] a raft down the Colorado River
[] a carriage in Paris
question 28
What is one of your favorite memories that includes snow?
question 29
Who was your favorite superhero or cartoon character?
question 30
If someone could bless you and pass on to you a special ability, who would you choose to bless you and with what ability?
question 31
Who is the most joyful person you know?
question 32
Who is someone you wish you could infect with a more positive attitude?
question 33
Complete this sentence: "It would make me a better person if I were more like you in the way you...."
question 34
When in your life would you say your self-esteem was the lowest?
question 35
Recall a time when you were given constructive criticism that proved beneficial.
question 36
The lion, beaver, otter, and golden retriever are used to describe four personality types. Which one do you think best describes you?
[] Lion: strong, confident, leader, likes to make sure things get done
[] Beaver: detail oriented, organized, follows instructions, good with projects
[] Otter: very outgoing, enjoys people, humorous, creative
[] Golden Retriever: loyal, sensitive, encouraging
question 37
If you could hire Martha Stewart for a day, what would you have her do?
question 38
Regardless of how long I live, I hope I will always....
question 39
"It is more blessed to give than to receive." Recall a gift that gave you considerable satisfaction in presenting it.
question 40
Describe the location and three features of your dream home.
question 41
Who would you most like to hear one of the following from?
"I love you."
"I support you."
"I respect you."
"I appreciate you."
"I miss you."
"I trust you."
question 42
In retrospect, what is something that your parents were wise in doing in raising you?
question 43
What was your most/least favorite subject in school?
question 44
If you could take a course in any subject right now at your local college, what type of course would it be?
question 45
In what way are you most/least like your mother? How are you most/least like your father?
question 46
In Matthew 6:34, Jesus encourages us to live with faith in the present.
Which is the greater obstacle for you?
[] dwelling on the past
[] worrying about the future
question 47
Who was your best friend in junior high school? What did you do together?
question 48
As I was growing up, my father was most like
[] a coach
[] an historian
[] a preacher
[] a cheerleader
[] a judge
[] a professor
[] a manager
[] other______________
question 49
If you inherited $200,000 (after taxes), what would you do with the money?
question 50
Name three jobs or careers you are definitely not suited for.
question 51
Describe your pediatrician when you were growing up.
What do you remember about those doctor visits?
question 52
Concerning what biblical topic or Bible passage (or verse) do you wish you had a better understanding?
question 53
What do you think that you will want to do in your retirement years?
question 54
Acts 2:42-47 describes a close, caring community. In what setting have you had the greatest experience of genuine fellowship?
[] friends at school [] job where I worked [] sports team
[] support group [] church-related group
[] volunteer organization
[] ministry/mission team [] fraternity/sorority
[] other______________
question 55
What item of clothing in my wardrobe do you really like to see me wear?
question 56
What is a song or piece of music that moves or inspires you?
question 57
What quality or skill that you possess would you find most gratifying to have your child imitate as an adult?
question 58
If you could win any competition in the world, what would it be?
question 59
What nonbiblical historical event would you like to have witnessed?
question 60
Name the Old Testament event that you wish you could have witnessed.
Name the New Testament event (in addition to the resurrection) that you wish you could have witnessed.
question 61
In TV's The Andy Griffith Show, Barney Fife once told Andy that the biggest purchase he ever made was a septic tank for his parents' wedding anniversary. What gift would you like to give to your parents?
question 62
What is something you thoroughly enjoyed doing as a child and have not done in years?
question 63
Richard Foster says that our lives are bombarded by hurry, crowds, and noise. Which of those three has been most bothersome for you lately?
question 64
Complete this sentence: "A time that I felt I might be in physical danger was when...."
question 65
In what event would you most like to win an Olympic gold medal?
question 66
Recall a time when you were disappointed in not being chosen.
question 67
I wish I could hire ____________ to write and record a song from me to you.
question 68
I think I would crack under the torture if I were forced to listen to only ____________ music all day and could only eat ____________ meals all day.
question 69
If we were to adopt a child from another country, which country would it be?
question 70
As a couple we make a great team, but it is most unlikely that we would ever team up to....
[] win a mixed-doubles tennis championship
[] sing a duet
[] win a medal in couples figure skating
[] be co-leaders (main speakers) of a nationally televised marriage seminar
[] compete in a ballroom dancing competition
[] operate a bed & breakfast
[] co-author a book entitled Stress-Free Parenting
question 71
Imagine that your internal dashboard has a spiritual passion gauge on it. What is your present reading?
E _______
¼ _______
½ _______
¾ _______
F _______
question 72
What is the worst or most unusual job interview you ever had?
question 73
The circus act that most reminds me of my job is....
question 74
What is your most/least favorite trait in others?
question 75
What kind of race best describes your last seven days?
[] BOSTON MARATHON It seemed to last forever.
[] TOUR DE FRANCE I was pedaling uphill as fast as I could.
[] KENTUCKY DERBY I worked for so long on something that was over so quickly.
[] INDIANAPOLIS 500 I went round and round, and I'm right where I started.
[] IRONMAN TRIATHLON I endured a week full of job, family, and church activities.
[] 24 HOURS OF LE MANS Sleep? What's that?
[] HUNDRED-METER HIGH HURDLES All I did was sprint and navigate obstacles.
[] DEMOLITION DERBY I feel beat up.
question 76
Talk about your early experiences with someone of another race or nationality.
question 77
Describe a summer camp experience.
question 78
What is your favorite animated film?
question 79
When you were growing up, where did your family go on vacations? Describe one of those vacations.
question 80
Can you remember a time when you got lost or separated from your family or companions? Describe what happened and how you felt.
question 81
Recall a time when you got sick at a very inopportune time.
question 81
What high school or college course would you rather flee the country than be forced to take again?
question 83
Can you recall a first date during which you immediately knew there would not be a second date?
question 84
Select and describe a couple who were friends with your parents when you were growing up.
question 85
Recall a childhood memory about one of the following:
playing in a creek
playing in a tree house
catching fireflies
running a lemonade stand
pretending to be a superhero
a slumber party or sleepover
jumping off the high dive
question 86
Describe your parents' reaction on the day you moved out or left for college.
question 87
Recall something special about your high school or college graduation.
question 88
What is your favorite scene from your favorite movie?
question 89
I thought it was one of the coolest items in my wardrobe at the time, but today I'm not sure I'd even wear it to a costume party. What is it?
question 90
Something I wanted to quit but my parents wouldn't let me was....
question 91
Joseph's brothers sold him into slavery. If you have siblings, what was one of the meanest things done to you by a brother or sister? If you are an only child, what was one of the meanest things done to you by a friend?
question 92
Describe someone you encountered recently who probably needs God in his or her life.
question 93
If you were offered the opportunity to be one of the contestants on Survivor, would you do it? If yes, what do you imagine would be the hardest thing for you to cope with?
question 94
One of the descendants of King Saul was named Mephibosheth. Do you like your first name? If you could choose another first name for yourself, what would it be?
question 95
In the movie The Karate Kid, young Daniel is befriended by an old Japanese man who teaches him karate, but more importantly offers him kindness and encouragement. Name an older person who blessed you with kindness and encouragement.
question 96
What is one of your favorite stories that your parents tell about you?
question 97
In the movie Groundhog Day, Bill Murray kept waking up only to repeat the same day over and over again. What recent day would you not want to repeat?
question 98
What old photograph of yourself makes you really laugh or cringe in embarrassment?
question 99
Recall something about exchanging valentines when you were in elementary school.
question 100
Congratulations! Your boss just gave everyone a spring break. Where do you want to go?
question 101
What is something that occurred this past year that you are especially thankful for?
(Continues...)
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