10 Days to a Less Defiant Child, second edition: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child's Difficult Behavior

by Jeffrey Bernstein PhD

Overview

The popular, powerful guide to help parents regain control over a defiant child or teenager

Occasional clashes between parents and children are not uncommon, but when defiant behavior-including tantrums, resistance to chores, and negativity-becomes chronic, it causes big problems within the family. In 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child, family and child psychologist Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein shares a groundbreaking ten-day program to help parents understand their child's behavior and regain control of their household.

In this updated edition, parents will learn how to face new challenges, including defiance resulting from excessive technology use (even to the point of addiction) and the stress of modern family life. Dr. Bernstein explains what causes defiance in kids and why it's so destructive to the family, then offers parents a step-by-step guide on how to reduce conflict and end upsetting behaviors.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780738218243
Publisher:	Hachette Books
Publication date:	07/14/2015
Sold by:	Hachette Digital, Inc.
Format:	eBook
Pages:	336
File size:	3 MB

About the Author

Jeffrey Bernstein, PhD, is a licensed psychologist specializing in child and family therapy who has helped more than two thousand defiant children and their families restore their relationships. A well known relationship expert and the author of Why Can't You Read My Mind?, 10 Days to a Less Distracted Child, and Liking the Child You Love, Dr. Bernstein has appeared on the Today Show and Court TV, among other venues. Dr. Bernstein lives in the Philadelphia area.

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Table of Contents

Introduction: This Is Not What I Expected Parenting to Be Like xiii

Introduction to the Second Edition xix

Day 1 Grasping Why Your Child Acts Defiantly 1

Day 2 Understanding Your Defiant Child 21

Day 3 Coaching Yourself Around the Yelling Trap 40

Day 4 Rising Above Power Struggles 71

Day 5 Reinforcing the Positive Changes in Your Child 110

Day 6 Discipline Without Desperation 136

Day 7 Rallying Family Support 160

Day 8 Lessening Defiance at School 186

Day 9 Overcoming Stubborn Obstacles 211

Day 10 Reducing Defiance for the Long Run 244

Appendix 1 Determining If Your Child Needs Professional Help 258

Appendix 2 Further Considerations with Age-Specific Guidelines for Managing Your Child in Cyberspace 267

Appendix 3 Guide, to Handling Defiant Students 283

Sources 293

Resources 296

Acknowledgments 302

Index 303

Editorial Reviews

"Dr. Jeff's advice is terrific: Listen, don't yell. Show respect."—Great Kid Magazine

"10 Days to a Less Defiant Child is a must read for parents and educators alike! In short order, Dr. Bernstein has masterfully created a program that allows parents to improve family and school relationships by giving them the user-friendly tools necessary to address long-term child defiance. Familial support, positive reinforcement, and a team approach that includes working with school staff are the cornerstones that make this work rise to the top. Every school psychologist and every educator who deals with defiant children should have a copy of this book in their libraries!"
—Ivan J. Katz, EdD, Superintendent of Schools, Eldred Central School District, Eldred, NY

"What a much-needed resource for parents experiencing the frustration of raising a defiant child! This book provides insights into why some children and teens reject rules and resist authority, but, more important, provides an easy-to-implement plan to manage these negative behaviors. The information on ADHD and other disorders is particularly valuable. The sooner you get started with Dr. Bernstein's plan, the sooner you will have a more peaceful home."
—Marie Paxson, coordinator of a support group for parents of children and teens with ADHD

"Parents need to go no further; this book is THE resource book for parents of defiant and challenging children. 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child empathizes and actively supports parents like myself—who have looked fruitlessly for help—in making changes in ourselves in order to help our children live more comfortably in the world. This book should be on the shelf of every parent, mental health professional, and educator. A unique approach that should become a classic!"
—Judith Roth, MSW, LISW

"Dr. Bernstein has accomplished the difficult task of writing a practical and readable book that will be a very valuable tool for parents. It is a potpourri of good ideas for intervening with a difficult child in an enthusiastic and positive way. I highly recommend this book!"
—Clare B. Jones, PhD, author of Practical Suggestions for ADHD

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