Table of Contents
Foreword 11
Consider Your Life
1 You Do You: Own Your Own Story 15
2 No One Else Like You: You are a Masterpiece 23
3 Heartbroken at Fifteen: You Are Okay 33
4 Hershey and the Highway: The Anatomy of a Drift 41
5 Whose Girl?: A Chapter From My Story 51
Look at Your Life
6 "But Who's Chrystal?!": You are a Soul 61
7 Double Blue Lines: You Are Loved As You Are 71
8 Knowing Isn't Growing; Take Action 81
9 Highlight Reels, Photoshop,, and Good Lighting: Comparison Can Kill 89
10 Just Say No to Dr. Pepper: Participate in the Process 99
Own Your Life
11 Do What the Ants Do, and Follow the Crumbs: You Can Know Something 109
12 The Most Natural Expression of Who You Are: Noticing the Gifts God has Given 117
13 You've Learned How to Do This: Cultivating Your Abilities 125
14 Calendars, Piggy Banks, and Spelling Bees: Noticing the Interests that Attract You 133
15 Extroverts, Introverts, and Everyone in Between: Noticing Your Nature 141
16 Be a Moving Target: You Don't Have to Know It All 151
Embrace Your Life
17 Wiggling My Toe? in My Fuzzy Rug: Nurturing Your Soul 161
18 Malala, Joni, and You: Do What You Can With What You Have 171
Develop Your Life
19 Kyes on the Prize: Focus on the Finish 183
20 Left or Right?: Make Good Decisions 193
21 Don't Miss your Exit; Maintain Your Direction by Paying Attention 203
22 Heed Those Warning Bells: Use Discernment 211
23 What My Marathon Taught Me: Exercise Discipline 223
24 Doing the Next Thing: Just Keep Going 233
Encourage Your Life
25 That Runaway Thought Train: Coach Your Head 243
26 Speak Only Truth: Coach Your Mouth 253
27 When You're Bullied by Your Feelings: Coach Your Heart 265
Choose Your Life
28 When It's Time to Party: Choose Celebration 277
29 Opting for Light and Air: Choose Honesty 287
30 Having Her Back: Choose Community 295
31 The Butterfly Effect: Dare to Believe Change a Possible 305
Acknowledgments 313
Notes 315