Touted as the solution to bad behavior, discipline has in face been a major cause of children's dysfunction for generations. Now learn what really works!
Every parent wants the golden key to raising well-behaved, academically gifted, successful, happy children. Embedded in our collective psyche is the notion that discipline is the cornerstone to achieving these goals. Out of Control--Why Discipline Doesn't Work and What Will challenges this notion, offering a never-before-published perspective on why the entire premise of discipline is flawed.
Dr Shefali Tsabary shows that the very idea of disciplining children has in fact been a major cause of generations of dysfunction. This book goes to the heart of the problems we have with our children, not only questioning our dependence on discipline but daring us to let go of our fears for our children, replacing them with an approach that draws parent and child together instead of alienating them.
The key to raising a terrific child is ongoing meaningful connection between parent and child, free of head games such as threats, deprivation, punishment, and timeouts--all of which are forms of manipulation. In Out of Control, we discover the reasons for a particular behavior and how to bring out the best in a child. Far from an "anything goes" approach, this is how a child learns responsibility and takes ownership of their life. When children connect with us and are encouraged to be true to themselves, the automatically develop the character and resilience that flow naturally from within.